My Soul Mate

Thank you for the amazing response to yesterday's blog post. Within a few hours, my email inbox was flooded with emails and applications from all over the world.

...That's a total lie.

I woke up to the most amazing response to yesterday's blog post, posted on http://jillianwalker.wordpress.com/2010/09/27/in-response-to-casting-call/

Any further applications will have to be a lot more creative than this. I'm in love.

Ps, check her out at http://jillianwalker.wordpress.com/

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Tonight I got home from work and did my usual check on @MarleyLynnG‘s blog, Bright Lights.

Today’s post was a little different than the rest. Today Marley called out for a soulmate… Now, I have never met Marley. I’ve followed her blog. I’ve tweeted her way. We Facebook. We offer support to each other. But have I ever met her? No.

Her post touched my heart and made me smile. [Seriously, this girl brings me such joy].

So in response to her blog post, I’m offering the following:

A Good Communicator?

Good Sense of Humor?

Enthusiasm for Life?

An Ambitious young lady?

Loyal Too?

Some P Action?

Hookups and Discounts?

Good Wardrobe to Borrow from?
[I think we're the same size too!]

So...

Love, Jill XO ❤

PS – You would be silly not to have this girl in your life.

Casting Call

The following is something that should come naturally, so I'm putting it out to the universe, along with the internet that...:

I am taking applications for my soul mate best friend. If everyone has a soul mate-best friend, I haven't found mine yet. I've had the close friendships, and people I consider my best friends, but I'm looking for the best of the best friends I will ever have.

What I'm missing is a relationship like Meredith and Christina from Grey's Anatomy. You call each other all the time, you know everything there is to know about each other, and you have the same interests and personalities that just "click". You inspire and encourage, and your energies just feed off each other.

Requirements:
Good communicator
Good sense of humor
Enthusiasm for life
Ambition
Loyalty
Professional and polite

And positives, but what is not required would be:
Hookups with sweet discounts
A great wardrobe that I can borrow from, or a good fashion sense that you can dress me- because I am lacking in that department.

Please inquire within.

Everything Happens For a Reason, and Often, It's A Good One

The first step to healing is to give in, not to be confused with giving up. Giving in involves accepting things as is and letting go of the resistance that brings pain, tension, anxiety, and fear. The difference between giving in and giving up is that "giving in" entails hope, faith, and confidence. No matter how horrible things may seem, they will in fact get better.

It happens to me every day. Maybe my alarm clock doesn't go off. I accidentally set it to PM instead of AM. I'm running late for school. There's no hot water in the shower. I forget my blackberry at home. I forgot to pack a lunch, or snacks-- and god forbid I forget my snacks!! Life doesn't go according to plan.

When things in life don't go according to "our plans," we begin to question where we went wrong and what we can do to change it. We have this constant need to be in control of our current circumstances. When life happens according to its own plan, it's a smack in the face. A reminder that we are not in control and are very much alive. What's "out there" isn't trying to ruin our lives. It's trying to save them.

If we learn to give into the lows as well as the highs, we'll begin to realize that everything happens for a reason, and often it's a good one.

The Privilege Of A Lifetime Is Being Who You Are

"We don't know anything. We don't know how to cure a cold or what dogs are thinking. We do terrible things, we make wars, we kill people out of greed. So who are we to say how to love?"

While watching "Extreme Makeover: Home Edition" the other day, I felt very touched when I heard the inspiring story of a husband and father who suffers from ALS, coaches and mentors at-risk teens, and opens his heart and home to others. While his health and body is deteriorating and his prognosis is not good, his family always has such a positive attitude towards life.

I was especially touched by the wife and mother of this family, who commented on how people have shown sympathy for this burden she has to carry-- To which she responded by saying:

"I love my husband so much. It's not a burden, it is a privilege to be able to walk through this journey with him"

No One Belongs Here More Than You

No matter what he does, every person on earth plays a central role in the history of the world. And normally he doesn't know it

I spent an hour walking around a book store today and skimmed through so many books that I want to read. There are so many things I have to learn from them that I am not. So many books, so little time.

I feel this way about so much. So many cities, events, landscapes, sunsets, monuments, attractions... so little time.

There are so many people out there all over the world that I could be amazing friends with, and that I could learn and benefit from. If I'm supposedly linked to every single person in the world by six degrees, I want to meet that sixth degree. Six degrees is a lot of degrees if you think about it. Have they really met no one in the world not even one degree closer to me? Even with the inventions of internet, facebook, and twitter? We come from long lines of people destined never to meet.

While there is much to look forward to in life, there is much to go out of your way for.

Some things you may be lucky enough to have fall in your lap. Some you have to work for. So when you think life is boring because high school is over, or because you're getting older... It's all your choice. It's rare to feel high on life if you don't take chances and step out of your comfort zone every once in a while. Be dangerous.

Do you have doubts about life? Are you unsure if it is worth the trouble? Look at the sky: that is for you. Look at each person's face as you pass on the street: those faces are for you. And the street itself, and the ground under the street, and the ball of fire underneath the ground: all these things are for you. They are as much for you as they are for other people. Remember this when you wake up in the morning and think you have nothing. Stand up and face the east. Now praise the sky and praise the light within each person under the sky. It's okay to be unsure. But praise, praise, praise.

Take Your Medicine and Crawl Before You Walk

I feel like things are creeping up on me. Time is passing quickly and I'm trying to keep up with it.

This weekend I am filming a commercial with Dr. Scholl's, which has been in the works for months. Free product? I'm not sure, I'll keep you updated. Soon it will be October, and then it will be halloween, and then it will be my birthday, and then it will be Christmas (and this blog's one year anniversary), and then I will graduate and move to a new apartment. Then a new chapter of my life will open and I have no idea what it will consist of.

I am almost dreading Halloween. I'm not sure if I have ever had a good one in my adult life. Believe me, I would love it if my mom would still sew my costume herself and that I'd have a fun family celebration. I never know what to dress up as. Last year I think I left it until the last minute and ended up wandering around in scrubs, as a sort of nurse who was disappointed in herself for not working harder as a younger woman and achieving her dream of becoming a pirate or a gypsy. This year I will leave it all in my boyfriend's hands. ...That or, I will end up doing nothing but staying in on halloween, watching Walter Matthau movies while eating strawberries and nutella.

And then Christmas will be here, and a few days after Christmas, this blog's one year anniversary- and I do hope to still continue one post every single day for the rest of the year! I am also getting my wisdom teeth removed around Christmas time, so look forward to possibly some drug-influenced blog posts. Remember those from when I broke my wrist in May? Oh the memories.

In February I will be leaving my dream apartment to move to a more reasonably priced, but still a steal of a deal apartment on Yonge and Bloor. I'm so relieved to have my apartment plans all settled. I was getting so tired of searching.

I want apartment ads to tell stories, not just count rooms. Does the apartment inspire genius, cause people to fall in love, reveal secrets, or does it drive us insane?

Let Love Write On You For A While.

You and I have choices we don't even know. But even if we could return to innocence, start from the beginning, still we must stare into the sun and want it. Chase the same sweet lines of a magnetic field that misleads us terribly sincerely wishing it were true

Where do you draw the line between loving, wanting, needing, and choosing?

I was reading about codependency and how our natural human need for each other, and love, and acceptance, can be seen as co-dependency. When you want to be with your best friend and lover forever, that's love, not co-dependency.

I had a dream last night about breaking up with an ex boyfriend, and going to his house to get all of my things. This dream actually reminded me of exactly how much of my things may still be there. I don't want them back. Just like you can lose your belongings in a break up, you lose much of yourself as well. You lose those pieces and other pieces take their place. Whether they are stronger characteristics, or maybe fears, something will take their place.

Maybe you grow from a break up. Maybe you develop fears that will affect future relationships. Unfortunately, it's those fears that will actually attract those negative things towards you. If you don't change your outlook and have expectations for the best, then you may still be attracting the same kind of bad relationship over and over again.

You know that phrase, "Don't cry because it's over, smile because it happened"...
I think I'm finally realizing how much I can actually relate to it. I've written in here before that break ups can be the worst time of your life, but after it's all over and done, I look back on it as one of the best times of my life. Yes, they're painful, yes, I'm really hard on myself while dealing with it, but the healing process is one that I wouldn't trade for anything. I don't wish anything bad upon my exes, I don't wish that I had never met them. I can't say that I could ever be friends with them again, but they were an important part of my life at one point, and always will be because of the growth I obtained from those experiences.

We really have to hammer it into our heads, that people don't change.

And I'm so glad, because I'm finally with someone that I never want him to change.

What's That Coconut Doing In My M&M's?

My friends,

we are missing out on something extremely tasty.

10 Life Lessons For Young Women Today

"The Insanely Fabulous Girl's Guide To..."
Presents 10 life lessons for young women today:

1. You are at least ten times prettier than you think you are. That holds true no matter how pretty you already think you are! Don't believe me? Ask your mother/auntie/grannie if she thought she was pretty when she was twenty. She'll say no. Then find a photo of her at that age. See what I mean?

2. The only thing you should be faking is confidence. If you don't have it yet, pretend you do. In every new situation, pretend you're not nervous, pretend you're not afraid. After a few times doing this, the pretend part disappears.

3. Want to try something new like painting, skiing, running your own business? Go to the library and borrow ten different books on the subject. Skim through them all, find the ones that have the most vital information and study them. Then see number 2.

4. No matter how old you get, remember what it was like to be a nine-year old girl. Remember the feeling of freedom. If you've already forgotten, do a cartwheel. You can so still do one. Savior that feeling. Wake up with it every day. You'll stay young until the day you die.

5. Cut or potted flowers are never a waste of money. Because every time we glance at them, they remind us how much beauty there can be in the world.

6. Starting right this moment, whether you're twenty or sixty, you can change your finances around. Don't leave someone else completely in charge, whether it's your husband, partner, parents, or banker. Become financially savvy. Financial independence gives you the freedom to walk away from many bad situations. How do you know you're in bad situation? See number seven

7. If your stomach hurts and you haven't got a virus, you're in a bad situation. Before you know what it is, your stomach always does. Give yourself some time to ponder what it might be that's making your stomach hurt. Chances are you already do know, you just don't want to believe it, for some reason. You can ignore advice from your friends, even your own brain, but you can't ignore your stomach, because the stomach never lies. Oh, and by the way-drowning your stomach in alcohol won't make it stop telling you the truth, either.

8. When meeting someone new and he or she seems to be behaving like a jerk, show compassion first. If after you display your sincere compassion, they are still acting like that, walk away. If they follow you, call the police.

9. Wear sunscreen on your face, neck, and hands every day, winter and summer. I don't care how dark your skin naturally is. Wear it. You'll remember me when you look in the mirror at age fifty. Always keep in mind that Your body is directly connected to your spirit. Look after your body. Exercise, floss, and brush your teeth. Put nothing in your body that can permanently harm your spirit, including the wrong man.

10. And if you with a man and he's the right man.meaning your stomach doesn't hurt, he's smiling at you, he knows your name, he's not drunk, and neither are you-for godsakes, enjoy yourself. He is not at all thinking about how fat your thighs look.